Tuesday, August 16, 2011 at 12:55am

I am in love with love; to the point where I get excited or giddy just thinking about finding true love. However, in wisdom of age I have to stop looking at love as a fairy tale and realize it takes work. Of course, I am a woman who enjoys a great book and intellectual conversation about love. So any one who really knows me would not be shocked that I have read all the latest and greatest on love; and how to be prepared when my “Adam” finds his good thing in me. I mean I have read everything from A Belle In Brooklyn (Demetria L Lucas) to The Conversation (Hill Harper). I just love the concept; the ideal, the passion, and understanding that is LOVE! Yet one book that has spoken the most to me is The Five Love Languages (Dr. Gary Chapman). I dare say it is on my top five list.

Dr. Gary Chapman, Christian counselor and author of The Five Love Languages, writes about the importance of being able to express love to your spouse in a way that your spouse can understand. He calls this a type of communication using the five love languages.

Chapman’s Five Emotional Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation

This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate’s self-image and confidence.

Quality Time

Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing on one another is the best way to show love. (Undivided attention)

Gifts

It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don’t have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love.

Acts of Service

Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.

Physical Touch

Sometimes just stroking your spouse’s back, holding hands or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need (http://marriage.about.com/cs/communicationkeys/a/lovelanguage.htm)

* READ the BOOK. It is wonderful and very eye opening for anyone who is serious about building a strong foundation for a great relationship

So since discovering this wonderful ideal of love languages I have spent countless conversations sharing this news with my friends and family, and trying to get them to figure out their primary love language as well as READ the book. Also, I made sure to figure out their love language so I could express my love to them in a way that would be most effective in their life. Not to mention, I am ecstatic about the day a great man comes into my life and I share this with him (I will ask him to read the book…then do a book discussion with me. I am one of those women ) But in trying to figure out my love life and my friends’ love life; I realized I had not asked myself the question: What is God’s love language? Then it hit me; He is the only person that has and will never let me down. He loves me more than I love myself; so why am I not focusing more on His love language? To make sure our love continues to grow; that He understands that I put no one or thing above His love. So I have decided that God’s primary love languages are Quality Time and Words of Affirmation; oddly enough those are my top two love languages, but of course they are… I was made in His image!

So I am writing to say that my God is a great God; my alpha and omega, comforter, healer, way maker, and provider. Also above all else He is my salvation. So I want to take this time to say thank you God for being all of those things and more; words can not express my love and appreciation. Yet, every day that You give life to my body I want to do my best to make sure You know You are GREAT and receive all the glory! With that I challenge anyone reading this. If you know that you believe in love and seek love in your life, first dedicate some time in getting to know Love (God) in a deeper way. Understand His love language and make sure you express love to Him in everything you do. Every book that I spoke about has been enlightening in my life, and I encourage everyone to READ; but if you read nothing else, read the greatest love story ever written… read the Book of Life (The Bible) and spend time in it; then spend time with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. This is a war cry because I believe in love and desire for it to grow in this world. So I leave you with this; when is the last time you made sure God felt your love for Him?